Utero Bonding and How That Governs Behavior
By, Raymond W. Brandt, Ph.D., Ed.D. Founder Twinless Twins Support Group International
There is nothing a twin does
or does not do which controls the intensity of utero bonding. Through
regressive hypnosis therapy, that bonding begins to appear by 8 weeks,
or the first discernment at eight to twelve weeks. After that clinical
ultrasounds reveal in-uterine activity becoming increasingly tactile,
touching, hugging, pushing. There is no doubt in my mind that
incipient, intrinsic, and associative to womb, placental sharing is an
increasing womb weaving of the multiples. The twins become more snug
and sharing everything is a daily life development accommodating each
other in great love and giving to each other.
When born, twins have become
'one entity' and know no other way of living on. Twins from stillbirth,
immediate separation by medical needs, or adoptions exhibit the same
frustrations and loneliness which later twin death causes. The
difference being infant twinless are unable to articulate their loss.
They find body semantics through behavior to evidence their great need
for nurturing through their devastating dilemmas.
Utero bonding continues in the
crib, mothers lap, playground, shared bedroom, -- each and every
activity the twins perform as one. Innate to all twins, identical and
fraternal, is a great need for close companionship. Parents have
experienced this when they each took one twin to different activities.
Each twin becomes fussy, crying, seeking their twin. As a single fetus
develops independence so twins develop inter-dependence. Each is not
whole without the other and it is this very weaving interface which
governs and dictates their behavior throughout their entire life cycle:
conception to death of both. The emphasis is on both for so long as one
twin does live the bond is not broken and continues its phenomena in
the twinless one.